“Being a Mother is not about reproduction- You are creating the next generation of people. This is a tremendous responsibility. Beauty of Motherhood is not in reproduction but in inclusion- to experience another life as a part of you.”
- SADHGURU
Motherhood is a gift of nature to either of the sexes all the species existing on the Earth.
For us human beings it's not a mere gift it’s a Responsibility, An Attitude which we have to carry with us for our whole life. It is not a simple biological relation like the other species, where child’s good health, protecting it from predators and support it till they become independent is our concern. Humans’ being the most evolved species on earth and therefore should be more responsible too. To bring that in the next generation becomes prime responsibility of a mother, because whatsoever progress we have done till date we have still not reached the point when a man can deliver the baby if mother is not willing to do so. Motherhood is the dispensation of women only. It is a choice that you make every day to put someone else’s happiness, well being, and necessities ahead of your own.
I recently came across an article saying “Caesarean deliveries have become an ‘epidemic’ in India — record 300% jump in last decade”. According to it a study says that India has crossed WHO threshold of 15%, in Cesarean birth rate. Experts blame unregulated market & increasing trend of women opting for it. One of my gynecologist friend told me that most of the young girls who are career oriented, want a family, children but without compromising with their jobs, their comforts. I came across one or two cases in my family too where the girls thought that caesarian births is comfortable in comparison to normal delivery. A request for a C- section comes from the patient to the doctors rather than vice versa.
A study done by BMC Pregnancy Childbirth, published online on 3rd dec’2018 confirms this fact in the section on “Patient-related factors” - Reasons for high rates of caesarean sections. The study was conducted on a group of women majority comprising of high socio-economic status who could afford private hospitals. As per the study
“Respondents reported that caesareans frequently occur
because of patient demand, sometimes scheduled beforehand, but often requested
during the process of labour. Many expressed that caesarean sections were
perceived as the ‘normal’ mode of delivery amongst women.
“Caesarean has become the new normal. Chances are my
friends, my mum, more people that I know have had caesarean deliveries rather
than normal deliveries.” (Hospital chief executive)
Respondents perceived that women viewed caesarean as an
“easy way out” of the pain of labour.”
The fact is really disturbing. Today’s girls don’t want to bear the labour pain either willfully or their lack of strength. Married girls do not plan for pregnancy till they reach their thirties and those who can afford don’t even want to go through the troubles of nine months. They have the option of surrogacy.
In these times of women’s lib, I feel that we women are forgetting what we can do better than men. In matching our steps with men and in the race to show the world that we are no less than men in any aspect, we forget that we were always ahead of them in many ways and motherhood being one of them. If educating a girl child is important for her career or her financial security so is her physical and mental strength for bearing a child (if she wants a family otherwise these days many couples are against the idea of having their own kids). It is also a fact that to decide to have a family or not is never decided in the early years and those decisions also change when the girls start facing problems related to their reproductive systems in thirties if they have not conceived till then.
In a family when both the partners are working then responsibilities towards the child are to be shared by the parents but a mother is always closer to the child as compared to a father. The reason being the period of nine months when a mother carries a baby in her womb, her each and every action is responsible for the well being of the child. We need to bring up our daughters with the understanding of the fact that we should raise our children to be true contributors to the world, the next generation should be better than us especially in humanity. For doing this our daughters need to have better understanding of compassion than biology.
I feel that we should make our daughters strong enough physically, mentally and financially that they can devote a justifiable time for the well being of their babies, our next generation. The period of twelve to eighteen years when they are with their parents, mothers especially ; during that period their diet and physical health should be taken care of keeping the fact in mind that they are going to have babies in future. It is true that we don’t discuss these aspects in this period but mothers can take care of their right nutrition and strength. In later years when they plan for family they should be given right advise not the convenient one.
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